As a court considers same-sex “marriage,” children are testifying about what it is like in homosexual families.
Testimony in the Louisiana court case has brought to light some interesting perspectives on what it is like to be raised by a same-sex couple. I’m not talking about how bad it could possibly get. I’m talking about being raised in ideal circumstances.
Lifesite News reports, “‘Quartet of Truth’: Adult children of gay parents testify against same-sex ‘marriage’ at 5th Circuit.”
As the 5th Circuit Court of Appeals considers whether to strike down laws in three states banning same-sex “marriage,” four adult children of homosexual parents have filed court briefings arguing that government-sanctioned homosexual unions could lead to disaster for thousands of kids.
Katy Faust, Dawn Stefanowicz, B.N. Klein, and Robert Oscar Lopez, who were all raised by homosexual parents, each submitted briefs to the 5th Circuit opposing the legalization of same-sex “marriage.”
I’ll skip some of the testimony and skip to the more positive statement from Robert Oscar Lopez. Awhile back I asked about how Darwinists could be so certain that homosexual couples would be able to raise healthy children into adulthood.
The premise of homosexuality is that it is just as healthy to have a sexual relationship with a person of the same sex as it is to do so with a person of the opposite sex. According to evolutionary theory, the brains and personalities of men and women are based on millions of years of evolution in which they needed to mate with the opposite sex and raise children to survive into adulthood.
So how can it be emotionally and psychologically healthy to reject the opposite sex and take on a person of the same sex instead? Also, how can it be emotionally and psychologically healthy to be raised by a couple of homosexuals in love with each other rather than a heterosexual couple? How can one be as good as the other on evolutionary assumptions?
One might guess, in theory, that being raised by two females without a male parent might impair a child growing up.
So what do we hear from Lopez?
While Klein classified her upbringing as abusive, Robert Oscar Lopez told the court that his own childhood upbringing by his mother and her longtime partner represented the “best possible conditions for a child raised by a same-sex couple.” Even so, Lopez testified that the lack of a father figure in his life, combined with the influence of the radical gay culture in which he was raised, gave rise to a devastating confusion about his own sexuality and ultimately led to his becoming a homosexual prostitute in his teen years in order to fulfill his craving for acceptance and love from older men.
“Had I been formally studied by same-sex parenting ‘experts’ in 1985, I would have confirmed their rosiest estimations of LGBT family life,” Lopez wrote. “[But b]ehind these façades of a happy ‘outcome’ lay many problems.”
“I experienced a great deal of sexual confusion,” Lopez wrote. “I had an inexplicable compulsion to have sex with older males … and wanted to have sex with older men who were my father’s age, though at the time I could scarcely understand what I was doing.”
“The money I received for sex certainly helped me financially because it allowed me certain spending money beyond what I earned with my teenage jobs at a pizzeria and in my mother’s [psychiatric] clinic. But the money was not as impactful as the fact that I needed to feel loved and wanted by an older male figure, even if for only as short as a half hour.”
So that is Lopez’s testimony about an “ideal” family environment. Being raised in a hyper-woman’s world, he craved life in a hyper-masculine world.
But there is more to his testimony. Even though he does not believe his family was abusive, it turns out that he still had to deal with an abusive larger group, the “family” of homosexual advocates.
Lopez said that he has spoken to dozens of other adult children of homosexuals, and that many of them have similar stories of pain and damage inflicted by the absence of a biological parent and the unwanted “step-parent” type relationship demanded by their homosexual parents’ lovers. Lopez included testimonies from nine of them in his brief, but said there were many more who were afraid to speak out for fear that the homosexual lobby would target them for harassment like they have Lopez himself.
This circle of harassment is not just an environment of physical intimidation. Since these people have been raised in that culture, group rejection often seems like family rejection. Sometimes (often?) the two kinds of rejection are one and the same.
In fact, being raised by a homosexual couple means a rigid demand for happiness and satisfaction with homosexual parenting.
“Children raised by same-sex couples face a gauntlet if they break the silence about the ‘no disadvantages’ consensus,” Lopez wrote, after recounting how homosexual activists harassed his employers and spread lies about him on the internet after he first came forward about his own childhood experiences as the son of a lesbian. “In such a climate, I must conclude that placing children in same-sex couples’ homes is dangerous, because they have no space or latitude to express negative feelings about losing a mom or dad, and in fact they have much to fear if they do.”
Katy Faust also testified that children of homosexuals are intimidated into silence by gay activists who threaten them with public shaming, job interference, and worse for daring to speak out against same-sex “marriage.”
“Some adult children with gay parents shy away from making their thoughts about marriage public because we do not want to jeopardize our relationships with those to whom our hearts are tethered,” Faust wrote. “Unfortunately, many gay-marriage lobbyists have made gay marriage the sole badge of loyalty to our LGBT family and friends.”
“The label of bigot or hater has become very powerful and effective tools to silence those of us who choose not to endorse the marriage platform of many gay lobbyists,” Faust continued. “For much of my adult life I was content to keep my opinions on the subject of marriage to myself. I was (and still am) sickened by the accusation that I was bigoted and anti-gay for my belief in natural marriage.”
“For many years those devices kept me quiet,” admitted Faust. “I didn’t seek a venue where I could share my views. But I have come to realize that my silence, and the silence of others, has allowed for the conversation to be dominated by those who claim that only animus, ignorance, or indoctrination could lead one to oppose ‘marriage equality.’”
This is the environment that our judges have condoned and imposed on us. The entire decision-making process is loaded with a pre-approved conclusion, because all testimony against homosexual marriage is discounted as hate propaganda.
The next time you see some young adult testifying how his two mothers were “just as good” as a father and a mother, ask yourself if the lack of testimony on the other side is because of reality or because of an intimidation campaign set up to portray a fantasy.