Is homosexuality not immutable? Robert Gagnon, the faithful Bible scholar recently observed, “I guess homosexual orientation is not immutable like race and gender after all.”
He was referring to this article in the AARP magazine’s website, “Can Sexual Preference Change With Age?”
The short answer to the title’s question is yes.
Sometimes a person’s life undergoes such a radical transformation that the change was inconceivable before it occurred. One such gobsmacking event happens when you unexpectedly fall in love with someone who never would have pinged your “relationship radar” before. If a homosexual (or heterosexual) thought has never crossed your mind, for example, it can be doubly astonishing when — wham! — you suddenly find yourself attracted to someone of an entirely new gender.
In as much as this article encourages people to believe that the gender of the person you get naked with is inconsequential, it is a delusional and sinful piece of propaganda. But it completely destroys the entire sexual orientation myth.
That may sound unlikely, but as researchers are discovering, a person’s sexual orientation is not carved in stone. In her influential book Sexual Fluidity, psychology professor Lisa M. Diamond chronicled her research on 80 nonheterosexual women over a period of 10 years. During that time, Diamond discovered, a significant number of the women had reported changing their sexual orientation. The most frequent cause for the U-turn? The “switchers” had fallen in love with a member of the opposite sex.
These women were not unhappy being lesbians, but love, it seems, really can conquer all — including a person’s lifelong sexual orientation up to the moment when she falls hard for someone of a previously ignored gender.
The research on men shows somewhat less flexibility. But Diamond and other researchers have compiled numerous case studies of gay men who spent years feeling (and acting) fully and comfortably homosexual, only then to fall unexpectedly in love with a heterosexual woman.
Yet Christian ministries that encourage practicing homosexuals to make the switch have been told that they are inhuman. They are asking homosexuals to do the impossible, we are assured. Everyone who quits the homosexual lifestyle is just faking it.
And I am sure we will continue to hear such rhetoric whenever there are Christians to be bashed. These people tell lies that they openly admit are not true.
One of the stories in the AARP article involved a lifelong homosexual male who got “married” in 2008 in California to a long-time male partner. Now he is married to a woman and they have a child. He fell in love in graduate school with a fellow student and “divorced” his “husband” so he could marry her.
You have to love the irony. The entire premise of homosexual marriage is that homosexuality is a fixed orientation and it is unfair to bar people of that orientation from marriage.
But what if there is no such fixed orientation? In fact, what if most of the reason we find fixed orientations is because people are trained to think and behave that way?
But the courts and the media are still reverting to that insane story in order to use civil rights laws to legislate immorality.